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Living Out Of A Suitcase

Living Out Of A Suitcase; Living A Traveler’s Life

How to deal with the anxieties, fear, no family life, and on the flip side good things as well; Apart from the basic necessities and wishing to buy all those material things from high end luxury brands, one should always inculcate exotic travels in their check list. And these exotic travels are not the ones where you visit luxury jaunts or travel by those VIP cruises, but those travels which are mindboggling, which will test your stamina, mental endurance and are feet numbing. Extreme adventure is what I’m talking about, in other words, live a life out of the suitcase.

KONICA MINOLTA DIGITAL CAMERALiving a traveler’s life or living a life out of your comfort zone is something that will turn you from that ordinary corporate or from the ordinary house maker, to someone who is a hero or a campfire superstar. But this doesn’t mean, you head straight to your boss’s cabin, and give your resignation. These journeys will test you fully for which you will need some preparation, but at the same time, they will revitalize you, will help you connect with nature and will give you time for introspection and will help you achieve your ultimate nirvana. Therefore, a traveler’s life is much more than just going to places, instead he tends to explore himself while visiting all these places.

Let me list some places which will help you make aware of the anxieties which a traveler may face in these expeditions and at the same time the rewards which they get after completing these. The first one is Canning Stock Route. This place is located in Western Australia and spans over 2,000 kms. This is one of the most beautiful and harshest deserts in the world. One of the major problems which one may face while covering this area is the adrenalin pumping. Apart from this, be prepared for the vehicle breakdowns, personal emergencies, zero degree evenings, rain, and you have to be self reliant, tough as well as be a confident enough to drive a four wheeler for minimum eight hours of the day at this stretch. But, the reward is even more amazing as you will be able to see emus, kangaroos, salt lakes, springs, Lake Dora, Tjukurba Art Gallery, and Warlayirti Artists, gazing at the stars, among others.

Dallol, Ethiopia Volcano

The next place, in the list is, Dallol, Ethiopia. This volcanic crater, spans over the area of just 3 km. but don’t under estimate this place, as this crater is located in one of the cruelest place, which is the Danakil Desert. You have to brave the sun, and will need camel caravans, constant water supply, armed guards, reliable sun block, drivers and you would need that confidence, brave heart and heroism to cover this stretch and to overcome all the dangers. The one thing you need to look for are the tribesmen of Afar as these people are known for castrating visitors, kidnappings, and murders and also avoid stepping on to acidic lakes as these are poisonous. Apart from these anxieties, you can see unexpected vents of liquid that too in different colors like yellow, green, rust, purple and can also see sulphur, iron oxide deposits. Thus, this place will reward you with a landscape, which will give you a feeling of sublime and will be something, which you have never come across.

Apart from the above two places, Kailash, Mansarovar, Franklin River, Tasmania, GR 20 Trek, Corsica and other places which will make you familiar with similar, experiences. Dangerous, yet exciting, these are places, which one should visit during their lifetime. These places define a traveler’s life, a life out of that comfort zone. You need to be physically fit, be prepared for the emergencies, and you should be able to make that choice. Then your life wi

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New Pope: What Can We Expect?

Becky Kospanova

Pope FrancisOn March 13, 2013 a conclave of 115 Catholic cardinals elected a new leader of Catholics worldwide – Pope Francis. The election had to be held after nearly unprecedented and most certainly unexpected resignation of Pope Benedict XVI on February 28, 2013 who willingly stepped down because of his failing health. Thus, an Argentinean cardinal Jorge Mario Bergoglio, the archbishop of Buenos Aires, became the 266th pontiff of Roman Catholic Church. Of course, the news about just elected Pope immediately spread all over the world and, considering that there are more than one billion Catholics in the world nowadays, everybody was eager to learn more about him and tried to predict what Church policies new pope will embrace during his papacy.

Pope Francis is a pope of many “firsts.” He is the first pope from the Americas and the first pope in modern times who is not from Europe (in ancient times, there were popes from Syria, Bethlehem, Jerusalem, and modern-day Libya). He is the first pope from the Jesuit order, the largest society within Catholic Church, which is best known for its promotion of educational institutions and whose members take vows of poverty, obedience, and chastity. He is the first to choose the name Francis in honor of St. Francis of Assisi, the servant of poor and destitute (that is why Pope Francis does not have a number after his name). During his first appearance on the balcony in St. Peter’s Square, he broke Vatican tradition by asking the crowd to pray for him instead of offering his blessings and refused to step up on the platform to elevate himself above the cardinals.

In fact, 76 years old Jorge Mario Bergoglio, son of poor Italian immigrants, has always been a man of great faith and humility. It is a well-known fact that he has always led modest life – while serving as the archbishop of Buenos Aires, he chose to live in an apartment instead of palace, rode public transportation refusing chauffer-driven limousine, and cooked his own meals. He is deeply concerned with the problems of poverty and social justice, and he even washed feet of AIDS patients during his visit to the hospital. As such, many people predict that Pope Francis will put great emphasis on conquering poverty and social injustices during his papacy. Moreover, some analysts argue that, unlike his predecessor Pope Benedict XVI, he will be more open to dialogue with people of different faiths. It is believed that he is sympathetic towards Jewish people and he even held common ceremony with Evangelical priest.

Still, Catholic Church today faces many problems due to numerous sex abuse scandals, corruption and infighting within the Church, and declining numbers of followers. As such, there is a lot to be done to regain the prestige of the Church. Many people argue that Vatican has consolidated all power and argue that local bishop conferences, diocese and churches need to recover some of it. However, nobody is yet sure as to what new pope’s position on this problem is. Being a conservative, Pope Francis opposes gay marriage, abortion, adoption of children by same-sex couples, and ordination of women. Consequently, it is hardly feasible that any steps will be taken in these areas. Also, many people point out that during so-called Dirty War (1976-1983) when Argentina was under military dictatorship and when as many as 30 000 people were jailed or simply disappeared for holding opposing political views, Catholic Church sided with the government. However, in an interview in 2010 Bergoglio defended the Church by stating that they helped many prosecuted people during that time.

Still, by appointing a pope from Latin America, Catholic Church demonstrated that it recognizes the growth of Catholicism in areas outside Europe such as Latin America, Africa, and Asia. As such, some changes might very well be

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Difficult Pleasures of Life

Perl Waterfall ChinaEverybody, in today’s world wants happiness and is striving to work for it. But what happens when this happiness is turned into pain or the small, little pleasure of our life become difficult due to the various complexities we create around us? This is to say, what if, the pleasures in which you seek happiness such as aesthetic beauty, being wealthy, success, health, talent etc., turns into pain or, what if, the distinction between pain and pleasure is wiped out?

This quality where one seeks for happiness and these small pleasures, is an inherent quality which is present in all human beings and this is mainly because human beings wants to create a world around them where they can enjoy everything. Thus, from the time, when we are children, we feel comfortable when our parents cuddle us and care for us. As we grow, we seek pleasure in our loved ones company or when someone compliments us. But, when it comes to survival in this world, then these pleasures have to be left behind and we need to function beyond these small pleasures in order to gain happiness.

Since, most of people have wrong notions about what constitutes pleasure, they tend to think that anything which gives them respite, is pleasure. Also, some live in a mode denial and since, they aren’t able to achieve true happiness and can’t remain content, they tend to seek respite in pleasure only. Therefore, beauty, wealth are certain things which gives everyone respite as then they can impress anyone and these then become pleasure for them. But these tend to give them respite for a very short duration and hence, pleasure become pain, from this particular moment as it starts interfering in our daily lives.

We all our faced by certain situations in our daily lives where we tend articulate and analyze various doubts, apprehensions, and even our small little joys and then we make choices for these small pleasures. The small pleasures become difficult at a time when you want to escape from certain situations and at the same time, a feeling to belong constantly faces you. Pleasures, whether they give pain or not, tends to hamper our growth and even make us stereotype people. For example, beauty gives us short-term respite; so all those things, which are not beautiful according to our own set standards, are rejected, and are judged on the basis of their appearance. Most of the seven deadly sins are committed because we are always seeking these pleasures.

Pleasures can be made difficult, only when you start making clear distinctions between what is characterized as pain and as pleasure. Such distinctions, makes you not only stereotype a certain category, but your mind starts functioning in a certain way, which will never make you and all you be facing is short term respite which you wrongly term as happiness. Although it may boost your confidence, makes you feel good, but trying going beyond the set standards and conventions. Start pondering and introspecting and then you will be a step closer to attain peace and happiness in true sense.

 

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Uniquely Yours

What Is Uniquely Yours
E. VirGinia Johnson “Genii”

Spirits 1 “Feelings of inadequacy can plague you sometimes, causing you to feel envious of those blessings that others enjoy. If you spend an inordinate amount of time comparing yourself to the people around you, your ability to appreciate the gifts that are uniquely your own can falter.

You will likely find that you feel more confident and better assured of the value of your individual attributes when you judge them utilizing their own merits as a benchmark. As you learn to focus today on who you are rather than who you are not, you may discover that there are many wonderful advantages that are exclusive to your experience.

When we choose to avoid comparing ourselves to the people we spend time with or individuals we see in the media, we are more apt to hone in on the blessings we have been granted and make good use of them. Appreciating these gifts for their own merit as opposed to how they stack up against those of others allows us to see that we enjoy a level of abundance greater than most.

Even though we may now and again feel deprived, we quickly recognize that our insecurities are wholly unrelated to what others do or do not have. We can consider ourselves special as we see the true scope of the many and varied blessings that have enabled us to prosper. Your choice to stop judging yourself today against the merits of others will help you recognize the positive traits that have helped you grow.”

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Next Pope?

Who Will Be the Next Pope?
Becky Kospanova

Crowd-in-Saint-Peters-Square-for-John-Paul-II-BeatificationOn February 11, 2013 Pope Benedict XVI declared that he will resign on February 28, 2013 due to advanced age and failing health which prevent him from carrying out his duties as Pope with necessary vigor. Considering that he is the first Pope to step down while alive in almost 600 years, it is no wonder that the world was stunned by his announcement. The last Pope to resign was Pope Gregory XII who was forced to do so in 1415 to end the dispute with a rival papal candidate; and the last Pope to step down willingly was Pope Celestine V who resigned in 1295 after serving as Pope for only five months.

There are more than one billion Catholics in the world today and, understandably, the future of Vatican is a matter of utmost interest to many people. Thus, the most important question facing Vatican today is as following – who is going to be the next Pope? Based on centuries-old tradition, every Pope is chosen by a conclave of cardinals. Consequently, a conclave, consisting of 118 cardinals from all over the globe, will be held in March 2013 to elect a new Pope in time for upcoming Easter celebrations. Out of all the cardinals, 62 come from Europe (mostly from Italy), 19 are from Latin America, 14 are from the United States and Canada, 11 are from Asia, 11 are from Africa, and 1 is from Australia. However, newly elected Pope will have to deal with many problems facing Catholic Church nowadays such as numerous sex abuse scandals and Church’s position on abortion and gay marriage.

While majority of cardinals from whom a future Pope will be chosen come from European nations, Catholic world witnessed significant surge in members mostly among African and Latin American countries. As such, many analysts predict that future Pope might be elected from these parts of the world. While many people agree that, ideally, next Pope should be chosen with no regard to his geographical origin but with consideration of his leadership abilities, the question of origins still plays an important role.

There are several candidates who are considered to be strong contenders to become next Pope:

1. Cardinal Angelo Scola, Archbishop of Milan.

2. Canadian Cardinal Marc Oullett, Head of Vatican’s Office of Bishops,

3. Cardinal Leonardo Sandri, an Argentinian Cardinal overseeing Eastern Churches.

4. Cardinal Peter Turkson from Ghana, the managing editor of International Journal of African Catholicism. This candidate currently leads Pope’s Council for Justice and Peace and is believed to be good at establishing rapport with people across different faiths.

5. .Brazilian Cardinal Joao Braz de Aviz.

6. Cardinal Donald Wuerl, the Archbishop of Washington.

The process of nominating a next Pope is a secretive one and, most likely, none of us ordinary people will ever understand what exactly happens behind the walls in the process of electing the next Pope. The only hope people of all faiths share is that there will be no more religious, racial, or ideological diversion to prevent us from peaceful co-existence.

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Parents And Teenagers

Communication Gap Between Parents And Teenagers

“You have no idea what I’m going through!”

“How could you possibly understand?”

“Just leave me alone!”

Does the above seem aParenting and Childrensll too familiar? Then you have teenagers in the house. Most parents have heard their teenager use one of these sayings at some point. A communication problem is one of the most common reasons parents give for experiencing difficulties with their teenagers.  While it can be frustrating for both parties, there are steps that you can take to help bring about a solution to what is a difficult time for both parties.

· Talk to them as an equal: If there is one single thing teenagers don’t respond well to it is being talked down to. If they think you are patronizing them, they will come out firing. Even if you aren’t, they will assume you are if your tone isn’t just right. The tone and manner in which you address them can make all the difference.

· Ask for their opinions: Asking them questions that have yes or no answers can be counterproductive. It’s far better to engage them in conversation so that they feel that they are contributing something useful. If they think you’re interested in their perspective and that they have a voice, they are far more likely to want to engage with you. If it feels like an interrogation then the defenses will go up and an argument is much more likely.

· Use I words: Rather than telling them their behavior is wrong or saying “you should do this” try saying “I feel” and then asking them if they agree. If their answer is no ask why. They need to know that they you’re interested in their opinion and that it’s a discussion and not a lecture.

· Put yourself in their shoes: We were all teenagers once so try remembering the difficulties you have gone through and there is a far better chance that you will be able to empathize with them and be more understating.

· Don’t automatically punish them: Encourage them to talk to you if there’s a problem, or if they’ve done something wrong. We all make mistakes, however, if they feel that you will just react negatively if they err in some capacity, they won’t come to you. If they know that you will help, guide and be understanding they will be far more likely to approach you in their hour of need.

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Everything above is about both building a relationship with your teens and gaining their trust. Kids will react badly when they feel you are talking down to them, or show no interest in their opinion. If you approach them as equals and tell them that you will discuss and listen to them before forming an opinion, it will have positive results all round. By placing yourself in their shoes, you will start to understand them better and they will often start confiding in you more.

Teenagers are going to make mistakes whether they talk to you about them or not. If you can get them to communicate better you can at least guide them better and discuss those mistakes so that they do not continue to make them.

It’s also vital to remember that 99.9% of families go through the same problems and most get through them just fine with the kids turning into adults they can be proud of. It won’t be long before you can communicate just fine, and laugh about the problems that seem a distant memory.

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Education – Where to Go?

Becky Kospanova

grads 1One of the life’s most important decisions with far-reaching consequences is the decision where to go to college. There are numerous variables to consider when a person has to make this decision – what degree to get in order to be able to get a job which you will enjoy for years to come, which college to go, how much money and time you are willing to invest in your education, what is career prospective in a chosen field, and so on. While everybody knows that getting a college degree will generally make it easier for a person to get a job (after all, all employers want to hire a person who demonstrated determination and some level of intellect), there are stories of people who dropped out of college or did not go to one at all and still succeeded. Most famously, Bill Gates come to mind because he is probably the paragon of what one can accomplish without getting proper college education (he dropped out of Harvard) with enough drive, smarts, and maybe some luck.

Still, most of us are no Bill Gates, and we have to think more practically about our future. Thus, what majors are best to consider? First of all, you have to carefully ponder your passions, interests, personal strengths, and skills while choosing a major. After all, it is a known fact that if you get a job in a field you love, your career will blossom simply because you’ll be doing what you love and you can succeed just because of that. However, according to US Bureau of Labor Statistics, there are some fields which are projected to hire a lot of people in the years to come. Maybe some of them are right for you?

Environmental Sustainability. With people being more and more aware of potential hazards the neglect of environment brings to us, new majors are created across the fields (such as agriculture, health, history, climate, energy, land use, etc.) which will potentially hire a lot of people in the future.

Computer Game Design. It is not a secret that a lot of people play computer games. As such, you can really benefit from jumping into the field which will only grow. It does not have to be limited to games, because people with such degrees can work in many areas such as cyber security, computer graphics, programming, design, art, etc.

Health Care. American population, as most of population in the post-industrial world, is ageing; and people who can provide care in this field are always going to be in demand. Nurses, doctors, physical assistants, medical billers will not have to look far to find a gainful employment.

Science. The US has always been at forefront of scientific research, and while many countries are catching up, we are still the leader. As such, many fields will surely be hiring as well. Biomedical engineering, biochemistry, nanotechnology, computer technologies are the areas which are projected to be the future for many people.

Homeland Security. With a world being, seemingly, less safe with each day, careers in security may be a good bet. A person can major in such fields as criminal justice, emergency response, terrorism, constitutional aspects of homeland security to assure the safety of the country’s citizens. Not only these are noble professions, but the employment is also relatively easy to find.

It is obvious that there are many areas a person with a desire to learn can go to but once again, one needs to consider the choices carefully in order to make a meaningful and fruitful life.

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Military Style Weapons

Guns 1Should Anyone Be Able To Purchase Military Style Weapons?

Owning military style weapons is clearly a thorny issue in America, and only those who have been victims and played a role in their “misuse” know why controls are being considered and contested. No one wants another loved one lost, for whatever maniac reasons. No one asked for this kind of victimization and no one is asking for these kinds of incidents anywhere. All Americans have a right to protect themselves’.

It is a known fact that it takes extensive training to learn to how to use military style weapons and, how and when to use them is a key issue. So what questions should be asked on these subjects and how should they be answered,

Who Should Own Such Weapons?
The truth is that these weapons were originally designed for military forces for the sole purposes of defending a country in war. However people have come to realize that they maybe left defenseless, especially if someone using these weapons ever attacked them.

This has increase the interest and demand for people looking to purchase a military style assault weapon to fight back and protect their family and many with very little if any training on the use these weapons.

In most States in America, everyone has the right to purchase assault weapons and openly carry one as long as they registered and licensed without the fear of being arrested. The Federal government and States now are left in political gun control battles on the grounds of stopping these weapons from being accessible to the wrong people, those with mental disorders and those that would violate the law.

These weapons of mass destruction and massive amounts of ammunition and high capacity clips ironically can be bought at backdoor deals through loop holes at Gun Shows without any registration in most States, which means no way to track ownership. The truth is, the only people that should own these weapons are military type personnel and as long as Law enforcement officials keep their part of the deal, which is keeping the citizens safe, then there would never be a need for self-defense, especially with these types of weapons and ammunition; but in this day and time that is a tall order.

What Measures And Protocols Should Be Put Into Place Before Allowing Assault Weapons Put Into The Hands Of The Wrong People?

The only thing that is perfectly clear is that even if the right people own such weapons the incidents that cost people and their little ones could and more than likely would still occur. Mothers and fathers who purchase assault weapons might be all for gun rights but never believe and suspect that their son could and would unleash rounds of ammunition on children as to what happen in Newtown. No one even thought that was possible including the mom, otherwise, she would have never have had that type of gun in the house in the first place.

In other words, this is not saying that the government wants to take away weapons owned by responsible civilians but looking at what can be done to prevent people around them from having access to these weapons because that may not be mentally responsible. It is being suggested that instead of arming limited trained staffs at schools and other populated location with weapons, they should hire returning veterans who are trained in the use of assault
weapons and the ability to spot those who may be suspicious.

Is It Victimizing People When The Public Vies For A Complete Ban Of Military Style Weapon Ownership?

If assault weapons are banned from being accessible to the general public does not necessarily mean that there not people who own these guns for protection and never used them commit crimes should not have the right to own them. People have owned guns since time in memorial and some of them have only used them only within the precincts in which they were legalized to use them.

“It is perhaps too easy to forget how many times this has happened. The horrific mass murder at a movie theater in Colorado on July 20, another at a Sikh temple in Wisconsin on August 5, another at a manufacturer in Minneapolis on September 27—and then the unthinkable nightmare at a Connecticut elementary school on December 14—are the latest in an epidemic of such gun violence over the last three decades.

Since 1982, there have been at least 62 mass shootings* across the country, with the killings unfolding in 30 states from Massachusetts to Hawaii. Twenty-five of these mass shootings have occurred since 2006, and seven of them took place in 2012. Do Armed Civilians Stop Mass Shooters? Actually No. Maybe We Need a Better Mental Health Policy Weapons: Of the 142 guns possessed by the killers, more than three quarters were obtained legally.” Mark Follman, Gavin Aronsen, and Deanna Pan.

The only thing that everyone wants to feel is an assurance that if they woke up tomorrow and go out in the public, they would return home safely and their loved ones would be sharing a meal with them just like any other day. So if this goal can be accomplished by placing restraints on the purchase of the guns ammunition and accessories and allow the possibilities that, everyone can sleep feeling assured, that everything will be fine when they wake up to see the sun the next morning, it is something that should be strongly considered.

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Gratitude

E. VirGinia Johnson “Genii”

angels-dark-thick-forest-31000I believe that one of the great Spiritual Practices IS Gratitude. Prayer and meditation help us to make our Divine connection active and conscious, forgiveness frees us from past hurts and wrongs, and gratitude provides an open place of receptivity for gifts and inspiration. Each practice allows us closeness to God, and each provides a form of communication. For its part, there is great joy in gratitude. In fact, gratitude holds so much meaning for the Spiritual student that it is included as a step in Spiritual Mind Treatment.

We may agree that being thankful is courteous; it shows civility, and lets others know that we care about the things they may do for us, but what is the big deal Spiritually? Surely it is not that we still believe in Big Guy in the Sky who will be upset with us if we do not give proper thanks? If God is the Universal giver and we are the receivers, it must not be this. Instead, I believe that the open place in us that gratitude automatically creates enables us to freely receive all that God gives. As we understand the Divine Flow, we don’t have to worry about stories of worthiness or unworthiness. We simply need to be able to say yes in small things and in large to receive continuous good. We restrict the flow only by our unwillingness or inability to receive.

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A Great Gift

How Wonderful It Is To Realize That We Have A Great Gift

By:  E. VirGinia Johnson “Genii”

Happy Faces 4 The next time you are in the market, notice the many choices you have. You like cheese? Well, there is Gouda, cheddar (sharp or mild), goat cheese, mozzarella; the list goes on.

What are we choosing in the marketplace of our thoughts? Are we choosing doubt? Fear? What are we picking from the shelves of consciousness and putting into the baskets of our lives? We must make sure to put Joy on the shopping lists of our thoughts. Joy is a High Vibration that attracts more Joy. Life can be easy; however, we must choose to see it that way.

Set the intention to enjoy this day no matter what. If something goes amiss at work, remember Joy. If the job interview turns sour, remember Joy. If someone cuts you off on the road, remember Joy, if some horrible event happens, remember joy.

When we are in Joy, we create an atmosphere that says we are ready for greater things to happen. The items we have on our shopping lists of Life begin to show up. Work becomes a pleasure, or we move on to greater things. The interviews that seemed to go sour actually turn out to be sweet experiences. The people who cut us off on he road are blessed because the Joy we feel in our lives touches them.

Today, and everyday, chooses to be in Joy. Enjoy the day because it is Good.

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Birth of Jesus: Fact?

jesus_christWhether Jesus Christ was actually born on December 25 or not is very difficult to state. Perhaps it is a fact or perhaps fiction. According to some, it’s a fact, while others would state it’s a fact. Another group might be such deep believers in Christ that it doesn’t matter to them whether Christ was indeed born on December 25 or not.

The Bible proclaims that people should have correct knowledge of Christ, something that is possible only if you have accurate information about the Prophet, which can separate fact from fiction. So, if we study the stories connected with Christ carefully such as the Bethlehem star, or shepherds looking after the sheep and their fields, the coming of the magi and the angels, etc., we can examine them and then determine whether His birth did indeed take place on December 25 or not. This is the only way we can determine the Prophet’s birth date to be December 25 since this date never finds a mention in the Bible.

Both the authors of the Gospel, St. Luke and St. Mathew, disagree that December 25 is the real birth date of Jesus. They, instead, believe that Jesus was born during King Herod’s reign of King Herod and for only one reason could he have been born in Bethlehem: that it was foretold that the ruler of Israel would be born there as it was the city of David.

It is also very unlikely that Mother Mary would travel through a difficult winter, pregnant as she was. However, it would be likelier that Mary and her husband Joseph would have made the journey earlier in the year. Another discrepancy is that if Christ was born in December, it wouldn’t be possible for shepherds to tend their flocks and fields in the snow.

Baby Jesus Christ

The Gospel’s authors also believe that the Bethlehem star, central to the stories relating to Christ’s birth, is a complete fallacy. This is so because if, as these stories depict, there could have been one star that shone only on a particular town and remained stationary there, it would be in contravention to the laws of motion of the galaxy.
Today, it also seems difficult to believe that this one star guided all the astrologers of those times from Jerusalem to Bethlehem, a town that is barely eight kilometers away. In St. Luke’s Gospel, there is no mention of the star of Bethlehem or the three magi nor is there a mention of the stable or animal around the infant Jesus. However, he does mention a baby in a manger.

However, there is one reason for people to link Christ’s birth with December 25 and that is because this date is linked with pagan festivals. It also coincides with the winter solstice and is said to be the year’s shortest day and, hence, the day when the Sun God returns. It was also the date the Roman Catholics chose to lord over Christian culture and eliminate a pagan day and replace it with a holy day.

From the above, it would be very difficult to say when Jesus was born and it is a date that we can never know for sure. But yes, we can say with complete confidence that this was one human being who changed the course of mankind.

 

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Love Analysis

Love: The Loftier the View, the Shallower the Base

It is outright stupidity to claim to understand love, because love it is not meant to be understood. This is the problem with young people today. They claim to have an insight into everything around them but what they miss out is the futility of the entire exercise of comprehending love, in the first place.

I have many friends who also have many friends. They, in turn, have many boyfriends and girlfriends. Since these young people are in relationships, they believe they’ve figured out the secrets of the world in an instant. Any relationship that lasts for more than a year becomes the hallmark or the archetype of a perfect relationship and of undying love.

I am not saying that that could not be the case. For the sake of my friends, I hope it almost always is. But to deny or refuse what is staring you in the face is an act of absurdity and stupidity that I would rather not indulge in. This is because I have had my fair share and more of love problems. I do not profess to be a love guru, not by miles. But I do profess to have studied, analyzed and observed some of the basic underlying issues from which dissent arises.

Allow me to share the most obvious ones with you.

However, the same is not the case with love. On several occasions, my friends have come up to me to ask, “How do I love him (or her)?” Or, “why do I hate him (or her) and at the same time love him (or her)?”Don’t understand love experience it. I know that at best, it sounds mushy, cheesy and clichéd, but that is actually how love is. Let me give you a very twisted logic. Have you ever had problems with feeling sad? You couldn’t probably understand why you are upset but there is no ambiguity as far as the emotion and its consequences are concerned.

That’s just the problem. Love has been romanticized, valorised and glorified to such an extent that we have thought so much more about it but have forgotten how to experience it. The problem lies in our thinking about it a bit too much. This problem gets much worse when people like me, who have studied, analyzed and observed relationships, formulate certain principles they wish to live by. If I were in love someday, I would…Period. Problem!!!

What we end up doing is to create ideals and notions much higher than our inbuilt tolerance scale. Neither would I ever be jealous nor would I fight unnecessarily. Instead, I would this…I would that. If it were as easy as that, the whole world would be in love of the undying kind.

Love is always evolving, which means it’s neither static nor fixed. It is an entity that you construct

as you experience it. The problem arises when you create lofty ideals about the person you love and end up with an ideal that you cannot live up to. This brings on a whole lot of disappointment when the ideal manifests itself in the relationship. In hindsight, you find that achieving love itself was impossible because you lose out on the good things of what a relationship does to you and can offer you.

A relationship is not about being perfect together but about being different and yet being together. When you work around those differences, with them and within them, you achieve the hallmark of love.

By this, by no means do you lower your standards but become realistic and avoid getting into an abusive relationship, be ill-treated or any such thing because undoubtedly, you know where to draw the line.

The loftier the view means the shallower the base. Whenever we have had instances of people having strong rigid views about anything at all, the consequences have been dramatic and destructive. Why would the life of an individual be any different?

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Diversity of Modern America

Becky Kospanova – The United States is a country of immigrants. From the original 115 English settlers that arrived on Roanoke Island in what is known today as North Carolina in August of 1587.

From then until now, people have been arriving to the America the New World at a steady rate in search of better life and opportunities. While most people who traveled too America early on were of European descent, over time, the ethnic map of America has changed considerably. From the predominantly white Anglo-Saxon country, the USA is moving towards a Nation, which is exceedingly diverse, both ethnically and culturally.
The 2012 election has proven that point clearly and unmistakably. While both governor Mitt Romney and President Barack Obama ran organized and persuasive campaigns, President Obama has ultimately secured his victory by demonstrating better understanding of changing demographics of the country. As such, he was able to acquire the majority of Hispanic, African American and Asian American votes; in fact, Pew Research Center has calculated that Barack Obama received 80% of their votes. Alternatively, many political analysts argue that the biggest mistake of Romney’s campaign was its lack of appeal to these segments of population and its preferential treatment of issues important to predominantly white and wealthy sector.

What is today’s America from an ethnic point of view? According to latest numbers, Hispanic population constitutes 17% of American population, Asian population comprises 5 %, black population amounts to about 13 %, and white Non-Hispanic population makes up 63 % of total population (the remaining percentage refers to people of two or more races). The numbers will change even further over time; according to Pew Research Center, by 2050, white Non-Hispanic population will decrease to about 50 % or less, while Hispanic share will grow to 29 %, Asian to 9%, African American population will increase just slightly over current number of 13 %, and people of two or more races will constitute about 3.7 %. For the first time in American history, white population will not constitute a majority.

How does the changing face of American nation affect and will affect the climate in the country? Undeniably, there is a plethora of positive things, which stem from the influx of people from different nations and cultures into the country.

We are exposed to the traditions and customs of other cultures, which enables us to experience the world to the fullest in the comfort of our homes. We can taste different cuisines and really appreciate the diversity of food and culinary talents from different parts of the world. We can learn practically any language from native speakers without leaving the country, which unquestionably broadens anyone’s horizons. Our children are familiar from birth with people from other cultures and, hopefully, will never demonstrate or experience racial prejudices.

 

However, not everything is going well. There is  still racism and discrimination which is aimed at various ethnic groups at various levels, be it work environment or neighborhoods. There are still preconceptions about people from other cultures, which are not true and offensive. There are still unresolved issues in regard to immigration laws and growing wealth gap between the haves and have-nots, which often depends on ethnic backgrounds.

The only way to gradually eliminate these complex problems is to educate people, keep an open mind, and realize that modern world is a global community and always changing.

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Maharajji, Indian Holy Man

Tama Kieves – Someone once asked Maharajji how to meditate. The guru told him, Meditate like Jesus. The devotee asked how do you meditate like Jesus He was hungry for direction.

Maharajji fell silent, slipping into a state of bliss. Tears streamed down his face. He answered he lost himself in love.

Kieves goes on to say that some of her consulting clients would much prefer that she give them assessment tests or read their tea leaves. It’s just that no one really wants to discover their own answer, feel their way through the unknown, let go of all the chatter and fear that they don’t have an answer, and lose themselves in love.

But it’s the only thing I want to offer them. I want them to experience their own unprecedented Power, their own irreplaceable genius, Kieves writes. The best part about the Science of Mind teaching is that this is a do-it-yourself Spiritual Path. No one proclaims to have the answers for you.

We have the tools that can help you, but you have to do your own work. This is scary for some, but liberating for others. All the Power you’ll ever need lies within you at this moment. May you have the courage to create the life of your dreams?

All the GOOD I can Embody, is Now Mine.

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Men and Women Wage Gap

Wage Gap between Men and Women: What Should Be Done?

Becky Kospanova

 
One of the undeniable facts of workplace statistics in the USA is the persistency of considerable wage gap between men and women. It has been calculated that on average women earn 77 cents to each dollar earned by men (2011 statistics) with no regard to ethnicity, occupation, educational level, and work experience. While it is an improvement from previous decades when women earned on average 57.6 cents to each dollar earned by men (1966 statistics), it is still a large difference. It is important to address the issue by looking at the actual situation regarding the wage gap, analyzing the factors which contribute to it, and seeing what has been done and what can be done to extinguish the pay difference between men and women.

According to Census statistics, on average, men earned $48,202 and women earned $37,118 in 2011. Economist Evelyn Murphy, the President of the Wage Project, estimates that due to wage gap, over the period of lifetime (47 years) full-time work, women will lose $ 700,000 for high school graduates, $ 1.2 million for college graduates and $ 2 million for professional school graduates. This potential difference in lifetime earnings is truly staggering, especially nowadays when more women than men graduate from college and, consequently, stand more to lose.

What are the factors which can explain this situation? Is there still gender-based discrimination at American workplace? Partially, the difference can be attributed to customarily role of women as primary caregivers for other family members. Therefore, they are more likely than man to work part-time, take some time off to care for children, and have gaps in their employment history which hinders their career growth. It is especially true for single mothers who disproportionally outnumber single fathers given our cultural and legislative predisposition of awarding single custody to mothers. While some percentage of the wage gap can in fact be ascribed to abovementioned factors, the picture is still bleak.

The American Association of University Women has shown that, keeping education quality and grades received equal, college-educated women earn 5 percent less during their first year at the job than their male counterparts.

Moreover, after ten years of equal commitment to their careers, the gap grows to 12 percent. The growing gap can be explained by the fact that if initially a woman gets a smaller paycheck then her consequent jobs would also

pay less because most employers calculate their salary scale on pay history. It is a vicious cycle. Some people argue that women get paid less because they do not negotiate their salaries as forcefully as their male peers. However, our cultural stereotypes often prevent women from doing so – assertive women are often viewed as difficult and aggressive, while assertive men are viewed as pro-active and energetic.

The idea that gender-based discrimination still exists in the USA is often disputed. After all, in 1963, President Kennedy signed the Equal Pay Act and later, Congress signed Title Seven of the Civil Rights Act of 1964 which prohibited sex discrimination at work. However, while women have a legal right to get paid equally, it did not translate into reality as yet. President Obama has tried to address the wage gap issue. Thus, on January 29, 2009 he signed the Lilly Ledbetter Fair Pay Act into law, which repeals the Supreme Court’s 5-4 ruling of 2007 (Ledbetter v. Goodyear Tire and Rubber Co.) and allows victims of wage discrimination to hold their employers accountable and bring the practice to the court. However, on June 5, 2012, the Paycheck Fairness Act, which would have greatly improved the chances of equal pay, has failed in the Senate on a 52-47 procedural vote.

It is necessary to work together to close the wage gap based on gender. As such, we need to appeal to our representatives in the Congress and Senate to work on the issue. We also need to address sociological issues by making child care affordable, by involving men in domestic chores more actively, and by impressing on our daughters the idea that it is OK to demand what they deserve.

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